Just reading the results of some research completed recently in the US (where else!) which says that men’s friendships with the opposite sex are driven by sexual attraction, regardless of whether they are single. It found that women, however, are more likely to consider their friendships with men as platonic – and only hoped for more if their own relationship was in trouble. As Billy Crystal (Harry) told Meg Ryan (Sally) in the 1989 film ‘When Harry Met Sally’ – “Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way”. So it looks like he was right all along.
The research goes on to say that the impact of work, hobbies and university has seen friendships between men and women reach unprecedented levels, but our mating instincts, which have evolved over hundreds of thousands of years, may get in the way.
I don’t know if you agree, but what is clear is that relationships between men and women will always have the potential for missunderstanding if you don’t make clear how you feel. So many of our members say that using an introduction agency like Sara Eden, makes it so much easier to go on dates knowing that the person chosen is at the same life stage, with the same interests and outlook on life. Even if the chemistry isn’t there, many of our members go on to develop lovely friendships instead, and you never know – the next introduction could be ‘the one’!