So the kids have grown up and you’ve just returned to the dating scene after being married for years. But dating is a whole different ball game now you’re in your fifties.

Don’t be disheartened just follow my four golden rules and make a good impression, otherwise there will never be a second date. In my 26 years of matchmaking you would be surprised how easily people can blow it, by saying the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing or doing the wrong thing.

Where to meet

Choose a mutually convenient venue, a weekend lunchtime is good and a snack is better than a large meal. Don’t go somewhere too noisy – the whole idea of a first date is to talk to each other and find out about each other and you can’t do that with loud noises in the background.

What to wear

Wear something you feel comfortable in. Nothing too tight or revealing and avoid the extremes of your wardrobe too. Business suits are a not good unless you have just come from the office. A splash of colour is good – wearing black only can make you look dull.   

What to talk about

A good starting point is the other person. Ask them about their family, their work, interests and how they see themselves in the future but don’t make it sound like an interrogation! For a successful long term relationship similar goals and aspirations are a must. Be yourself, don’t try to be someone you are not. If you are nervous be honest and say you are nervous. Don’t talk endlessly about your ex – believe it or not this is one of the most common reasons for not getting a second date. Politics and religion are a big NO NO!

How to behave

In my 26 years of matchmaking I am yet to find a man who isn’t attracted by a smile. So smile and enjoy your date. Turn off your mobile phone and for goodness sake don’t text! 

So now it’s over to you!