Don’t Keep Repeating The Same Dating Mistakes

  I am forever surprised at just how many intelligent people keep making the same dating mistakes time after time. If your ex was a disaster surely, you would steer clear from anyone who reminded you of them. Perhaps your ex was possessive, jealous, and overly controlling so you ended the relationship. If you can…

Spring is in the air…….

  It may be just wishful thinking on my part but on my morning walk yesterday the signs of spring were definitely in the air, it was a joy to see the first signs of leaves becoming greener, a few flowers brave enough to go into bud, feeling the sun on my face and the…

Don’t Stay With A Partner Who Doesn’t Care

  If your partner doesn’t care about you at the start of your relationship things will only get worse. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can change them or that moving in together, getting married or even having a family will make things better, they won’t. People don’t change, so don’t put yourself down by…

Prepare For The Future!

  Now is the time to realign your expectations and your approach to dating. Ditching the behaviours and thoughts that are holding you back will open up new options for you to explore. Follow your instincts from there – you’re already on the right road to true happiness.   To position yourself better, I recommend…

Get Over Them Before Moving On

This is the time of year when we start thinking about the future and this year more than ever people will be thinking how different their lives will be in 2021. So, it’s time to take control of your future, we all get affected by the up’s and downs of life and some of us…

Early Adopters

If you are an early adopter you are likely to be drawn to new concepts that stretch the boundaries of the known. You are adventurous, not risk averse, intuitive and you like to break new ground.   Sara Eden is one too.   33 years ago, hardly anyone met through introduction agencies – it was…

Ask an Expert

Dear Single Person, You are not alone! There are many who just like you would prefer to be in a loving and supportive relationship right now. The UK has 7.7 million single person households – that’s what I call potential! Now is definitely not the time to give up hope.   Living alone has lots…

Feelings…

We all have times when we can’t work out exactly how someone we know is feeling. It’s okay as an occasional thing, but if it keeps happening there is a simple solution you might want to try. It’s nothing to do with the other person offering you a spontaneous explanation – if you really want…

Being Alone and At Peace with Yourself….

If you are single just now and would rather not be, you are probably feeling somewhat despondent. With all the anxiety around work, the health of vulnerable friends and family, on top of your own, the prospect of being alone now heaps on more misery.   But, your single status is not something you should…

Dating Your Forties and Beyond.

t can feel fraught and even frightening. You’ve been hurt before and the memory of that pain may be influencing you now, making you feel desperate to get things ‘right’ this time. The trouble is that desperation may also make you more inclined to rush. When you rush you’ll be more demanding, less discerning and…

Understanding Heartbreak

Now is the time to realign your expectations and your approach to dating. Ditching the behaviours and thoughts that are holding you back will open up new options for you to explore. Follow your instincts from there – you’re already on the right road to true happiness.   To position yourself better, I recommend the following:…

Prepare For The Future

Now is the time to realign your expectations and your approach to dating. Ditching the behaviours and thoughts that are holding you back will open up new options for you to explore. Follow your instincts from there – you’re already on the right road to true happiness.   To position yourself better, I recommend the following:…

Too Much Choice

Having too much choice could be said to be a modern dilemma, one which is exacerbated by the breaking down of the traditional social codes around dating. Too much choice can be really destabilising, as settling down with one person feels impossible – how can one be sure that the choice made is the right…

Other People’s Shoes

We’re all in a state. What’s next? Is it worth dating right now if we might not be able to meet? Have I got the energy for a new relationship anyway? Am I going to lose my job?   Frankly, life feels less safe. Could a different approach help? The sense that the usual rules…

Now we’re having a heatwave

Just when we thought our endurance had been tested to the limit by the lockdown, now the universe is sending us a Saharan blast of heat to test us further……everything feels like too much effort, especially when we are not sleeping as well as we normally would and tempers are frayed, to say the least.…

Your New Normal Part 2

Self-knowledge is a such great thing. If you have managed to complete your reflection period and reach a greater understanding of yourself, the new you will be ready to forge ahead and consider the next step – exploring the new attitudes and behaviors you want to focus on. This is important and time consuming, but…

The New Normal Part 1

As you emerge blinking into the sunlight post lockdown, do you wonder if you might have lost your edge a little? All that free time and the slower pace to life may have left you feeling that you’re not quite up to speed any more. Not at all – whether you know it or not,…

Loneliness

Loneliness is something that many of us have been experiencing lately. It’s a rotten feeling but take heart from the fact that it’s not something you need to put up with. If you are experiencing genuine loneliness (and not confusing it with being alone, which can actually feel great) the solution lies with you. Now,…