Intimacy in relationships is a worthy topic, because the capacity for intimacy is the key to long term commitment.
It concerns the closeness of two individuals. To achieve it, you will need to be willing to trust each other, be open and vulnerable.
There are four common types of intimacy:
Emotional – sharing and hearing each other’s thoughts and wishes, fears, feelings and desires, without judgement.
Physical – touching that expresses regard, care and love, increases and reinforces emotional closeness. Boundaries about what feels safe are important here as they promote trust and show respect for each other.
Mental – being open to each other’s opinions and thoughts, learning from each other and being willing to consider other points of view. Maintaining curiosity about each other’s values will strengthen this aspect of the relationship.
Spiritual – this is about exploring each other’s belief systems and can include religion, but also focuses on how you feel about honesty and fidelity and any cultural differences.
It is helpful if your relationship is balanced and equal. Healthy relationships allow for and can adapt to differences of opinion, need, decision making and earning power. They tend towards a shifting pattern, where one supports the other unconditionally, according to individual requirements and a dynamic tension persists, so neither one nor the other is in overall control.
The next question is where to find someone capable of intimacy, with the value set that will make you happy?
You might try Sara Eden. We assess everyone who wants to join. We examine their values, listen to what they have to say about past relationships and their aspirations for the future. If it emerges that they do not mirror the emotionally available, open, warm and kind clientele we already have, then we do not invite them to join. Our members are special and we want only the best for them. If you are serious about finding the right person for you, your next step is to give us a call.