How to move on from the past and find love again.

Thursday, May 23rd, 2019

Some people never learn from past mistakes. They have their heart broken time after time. Putting your heart on the line gets harder and harder with each new person, especially as we get older. Falling in love, however, inspires passion, creativity, and comfort that you can’t give up on. Don’t let the emotional trauma and financial loss of past breakups ruin your search for love. Follow these simple steps to find love again.

Learn To Forgive.

The first step to moving on is to look forward. If you’re focusing your energy on the past, you’ll never get anywhere. Instead, focus on the things you can do now that will affect your future. Nothing’s going to change by focusing on arguments you had with your ex. It doesn’t matter who was right or wrong, and, if resolution were possible, you’d still be together. Forgive your ex and move on; not for them, but to enable you to find new love.

Learn To Love Yourself.

Once you’ve forgiven yourself and let go of the past, it’s time to discover how to be comfortable in your own skin. We all have flaws and that’s O.K.  You may not be the smartest, strongest, funniest, or most physically appealing person. Whatever your shortcomings are, it doesn’t mean you’re never going to find someone who will love you for who you are instead of loathing you for what you’re not.  Be proud of who you are, whomever that may be; that way, when you find new love, you’ll recognize it.

Decide What You Want Out Of Life.

Now that you’re comfortable with yourself, spend a little time discovering what it is you truly want out of life. Find out what really makes you happy, and that’s where you’ll find new love, a love that’s worthy of YOU.

Sharing Similar Interests.

It’s important, especially as we get older that you and your partner enjoy, support and share the same values and interests. By this I mean if you enjoy an active lifestyle, a couch potato probably isn’t the best match for you. You’ll know when you find new love that’s real when you support each other and mutually respect each other.

Don’t Be Afraid Of Being Hurt.

I’ve heard countless people say they don’t open themselves up because they don’t want to get their heart broken again. It’s easy to be cynical about matters of the heart.  If you’re afraid of being hurt, you’re going to be hurt. You won’t be comfortable and you won’t act like the real you.

Confidence is essential to finding true love, so stop being afraid. Break out of your comfort zone and open yourself up to trying new things with someone new. Talk about yourself without fear of judgment; if the person you’re with judges you, they are not the right person for you and it’s better you find out sooner than later.

Finding Love The Sensible Way.

Over the past few years both as Founder of Sara Eden and Press Officer for the Association of British Introduction Agencies I have noticed a sharp increase in singles returning to Matchmaking agencies.  After all it makes perfect safe sense to join a reputable agency with a known track record like Sara Eden. That way you can meet like-minded people in a safe and secure way.

Be Patient.

Overnight success is a myth, even in love. Don’t expect the first person you meet to be “the one”. Be patient, let go of your inhibitions and put yourself out there. Smile, laugh, and enjoy life with the people around you – sooner or later, you’re going to find someone who you truly love and who truly loves you. Remember, there’s someone out there for everyone and you won’t find them if you don’t try.

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