Monday, July 6th, 2020

Loneliness is something that many of us have been experiencing lately. It’s a rotten feeling but take heart from the fact that it’s not something you need to put up with. If you are experiencing genuine loneliness (and not confusing it with being alone, which can actually feel great) the solution lies with you. Now, that might not be easy to read, but there are changes you can make so that loneliness abates. We all deserve to be happy.


Those you know are all facing various challenges now and it’s important to realise that it is easy to forget about other people’s feelings when difficulties arise. So, drop a text to someone who hasn’t been in touch with you, keep it short and ask them how ​they ​are feeling. You may resent the fact that they haven’t reached out to you, but none of us knows enough about how our friends are coping now unless we ask. It’s highly likely the friend you have texted will be glad to hear from you, especially if you are asking about them and that is how conversation resumes. The more you do this, the better you will feel, because you are giving care to others and that’s the key to successful relationships.


If you’re shy you can help yourself by chatting whilst you queue for the shops or are out taking exercise. Capitalise on the fact that we live in unique times, through which we’re all struggling somewhat and a short chat about nothing in particular lifts the spirits. The more you do this the easier it will become; the more confident you are, the more you will feel like smiling and this will draw others to you.


These simple tips essentially help bring more regard into your life, from others and from yourself. You’ve no doubt heard the old saying ‘ Love yourself if you want to be loved by others’ – it’s so true! Successful romantic relationships rely on this: it’s part of what attracts the right partner and keeps that person close and committed.


So if you feel lonely and would like to find a life partner, remember that the search starts with YOU. Love yourself and the rest will follow as easily as breathing.


Karen X